Home Start UK

Story 6

I had an extremely stressful job, lots of responsibilities and dead lines to meet…surely having a baby would be a piece of cake!!!  So when we found out I was pregnant, we were absolutely delighted, however finding we were expecting twins was a bit of a shock!

It really doesn’t matter what anyone tells you, what advice or warnings you receive, when a baby enters your life, your whole world changes…but when it’s twins, God help you!!

My life became one long round of changing nappies, feeding, sterilizing bottles and sleepless nights.  My husband was a great support when he was her but he left the house for work each morning before 6am and we didn’t see him for another 12 hours.

Both of my parents had died - I had lost my mother only 18 months earlier, and I was still grieving for her.  My sisters wee a great support to me but they either had families of their own to look after or worked full time and did not live locally.  They were always phoning me to check we were all ok but I struggled to even find the time to take the phone off the answering machine so they spoke more to that than to me.

I dreaded going to bed at night because it meant I would have to start all over again the next day.  I began to hate getting out of bed in the morning.  I couldn’t understand what was wrong with me - I had these two beautiful babies yet I was miserable and always crying.  I had never felt so alone.

When the twins were 6 months old I was diagnosed with Post Natal Depression and antidepressants were prescribed.  I was feeling very low and by chance received a phone call from Home-Start offering me a volunteer.  That call could not have come at a better time.

Initially I though 2 hours a week was not going to be of any use to me but when I met Sue she was like a breath of fresh air.  She came each week on a pre-arranged day and would basically do anything I wanted or needed.  Sometimes she would play with the babies and I could do silly things like clean the bathroom or tidy the bedrooms.  Other times we would go running around in the car doing errands.  This may sound like run of the mill stuff but accomplishing these simple things can just make you feel so much better in yourself.

Sue was a very positive and encouraging person.  She was always telling me what a wonderful mother I was, how well I coped and how good I was with the children.  She helped me to believe I was actually doing a ‘good job’.

Home-Start was that helping hand I needed for 6 months just to get me on the road to recover.  I can’t thank them or Sue enough for all their help, and you know something, I now know Sue was right… I really am a wonderful mother!!!!